Well said. I think 2022 is off to a “different” start than other years. Grief operates on its own time, a unique watch for everyone who experiences it. My father passed 10 days after I got married. My mother was 49. It was indeed challenging to navigate two major life changes at once. Not everyone will or even needs to understand your way of coping.
I find the way I can speak without losing my composure is to say “my late husband” when I am talking about something with the family. If they know he has passed, it is a way to include him in our conversation. If they didn’t know they offer a quick condolence. Especially if we haven’t seen someone—it breaks that tension.
This particular post killed me. My father died when I was 30 and it was 2 solid years before I felt human again. You are in a worse situation. Feel your feelings for you and your girls. Do what you can and don’t let anyone make you feel bad. Some days you’ll be in the world, some days you won’t, but as long as you and the girls are on the same page that’s all that matters. Also, take the help from your good friends. Sometimes that might be the only reason to get out of bed. XO
Well said. I think 2022 is off to a “different” start than other years. Grief operates on its own time, a unique watch for everyone who experiences it. My father passed 10 days after I got married. My mother was 49. It was indeed challenging to navigate two major life changes at once. Not everyone will or even needs to understand your way of coping.
I find the way I can speak without losing my composure is to say “my late husband” when I am talking about something with the family. If they know he has passed, it is a way to include him in our conversation. If they didn’t know they offer a quick condolence. Especially if we haven’t seen someone—it breaks that tension.
This particular post killed me. My father died when I was 30 and it was 2 solid years before I felt human again. You are in a worse situation. Feel your feelings for you and your girls. Do what you can and don’t let anyone make you feel bad. Some days you’ll be in the world, some days you won’t, but as long as you and the girls are on the same page that’s all that matters. Also, take the help from your good friends. Sometimes that might be the only reason to get out of bed. XO